How to Recognise Signs of Alcoholism and Offer Help

Sometimes it can be hard to identify when a loved one has an alcohol addiction. There is a thin line between social/moderate drinking and alcoholism and commonly, bringing up the concern is challenging and unpleasant for all parties involved.

Drinking alcohol to handle day-to-day life, or to avoid feelings of regret or pain, is a significant problem which can lead to damaging consequences. Alcoholism is more than simply binge drinking over the weekend. It is a physically exhausting dependence on alcohol which is sometimes difficult to understand. For this reason, it is vital to understand the issue and recognise the warning signs of an alcoholic.

There are numerous factors that need to be considered when understanding alcoholism. Genetic factors such as family history, environmental factors such as social and work life, and mental health factors including depression and anxiety, all play a connected role in alcohol addiction. The reality of the matter is that addicts often use alcohol to self-medicate, and the core issues affecting the person need to be resolved to overcome the addiction.

Thanks to the commonality of drinking in various cultures all around the world, in addition to the vastly different effects from one person to another, it is tricky to identify when a loved one has an alcohol addiction. The bottom line is this: if a person's drinking is negatively impacting their life, then they have a drinking problem. Here are some warning signs that can help you identify when a loved one has an alcohol addiction:

There are typically two types of drinking problems: alcohol abuse and alcohol dependence.

Alcohol Abuse

Alcohol abuse is where a person's alcoholic behaviour is self-destructive and harmful, however it is typical for alcohol abusers to be able to put limitations on their drinking to prevent detection.

Common signs and symptoms are:

●     Weak performance at the workplace, home or study

●     Disregarding responsibilities

●     Relationship difficulties

●     Consuming alcohol in dangerous situations, for example, drink-driving and looking after children

●     Frequent legal issues

●     Unable to unwind or socialise without alcohol

It is relevant to note that not all alcohol abusers become alcohol dependent, but this is the first step and a big risk factor. Alcohol addiction can suddenly develop in response to stress, personal loss or financial issues. Conversely, alcohol addiction can steadily develop as tolerance increases.

Alcohol Dependence

Alcohol dependence (or alcoholism) consists of all of the symptoms of alcohol abuse with an additional ingredient: physical dependence. If you turn to alcohol just to function and make it through the day, then you have alcoholism. If you need a drink in the morning because of you feel sick from withdrawal, then you have alcoholism.

Common withdrawal symptoms are:

●     Shaky hands or trembling

●     Excessive sweating

●     Vomiting and nausea

●     Clinical depression and anxiety

●     Exhaustion

●     Insomnia

●     Irritability

●     Loss of appetite

●     Seizures

Now that you realise the signs and symptoms of alcohol addition, here are some steps you can take to help a loved one with alcoholism:

Step 1 - Stop neglecting the addiction

If a loved one is suffering from alcohol addiction, the best thing to do is to be straightforward and honest with them about the issue. Although it may seem tough as a result of the nature of the problem, simply dismissing the issue or hoping the person will solve the issue by themselves is not an adequate approach.

Tell your loved one that you are distressed and concerned regarding their drinking and be prepared for a negative response. It's common for alcoholics to be in denial and to react bitterly to any suggestion of a drinking problem. Assure them that you clearly wish to help them in a non-judgemental, compassionate and genuine approach.

Step 2 - Assemble support

Enrolling the assistance of family and friends whom the person trusts will make it easier to offer help. Forming an intervention is a reliable approach to communicate to the person that not only do they have a problem, but there is plenty of support and encouragement in their recovery process.

Talking with a professional, for instance, a doctor or specialist is a good way to get an idea of the best way to address the person regarding their addiction. Ask for advice and formulate a plan, such as the services from an alcohol rehabilitation centre or a therapist, and the costs and period of treatment.

Step 3 - Rehearse

Consider the best way to talk to your loved one about their addiction. Ensure that you use positive and supportive statements as opposed to negative and upsetting statements. Tell the person how 'you' feel and the value of the relationship to you. Do not just concentrate on their behaviour and the cost that alcoholism is taking on their life. Stay calm and be prepared for a pessimistic reaction. Reassure them that you're there to help.

Step 4 - Intervene when the person is sober and calm

For the most productive outcomes, don't approach the person when he or she has been drinking or when they are anxious. A calm, sober surrounding is exceptionally important for the person to best understand what is being communicated to them, both verbally and emotionally. Make certain the discussion takes place in a stable and private setting to avoid any embarrassment or disturbances.

Step 5 - Commit to Change

It's natural for alcoholics to play down the impacts of their drinking problem. Do not fall for fabricated promises such as reducing their drinking on their own. Propose a formal treatment program which is the most reliable way to treat alcoholism. It's important to not allow emotions dictate the conversation. Try to achieve firm commitments and follow up on them to demonstrate that you are genuine about their recovery. This process is lengthy and enduring, and relapses are frequent. Persistence is key; there is no cure for alcoholism and ultimately it is up to the person to want to help themselves.

Step 6 - Monitor progress

Alcohol addiction is a debilitating issue and it's important that you keep track of your loved one's development for the entire journey. Be encouraging even after treatment has finished. You must be dedicated to their long-term recovery. Even if a person has finished treatment does not in any way imply that they are totally recovered. Stay committed.

Step 7 - Avoid Codependency

Those close to a person with alcoholism can naturally become excessively concerned for their well-being. This is called codependency and is harmful to recovery. Ensuring that you are supportive is important, but becoming their doctor and therapist will do more damage than good. Not only have these professionals spent years researching and training, but they are objective from the start and won't allow emotions to get in the way of an effective recovery. Furthermore, codependency can cause other destructive behaviours which are equally detrimental. If required, seek support from a counsellor or support group to address any codependency issues.

Start the Road to Recovery today

Alcohol dependency is a common illness in today's society. Increasing pressures from work, finances and family require attention before they become a significant problem. If you have a loved one that needs help, please contact the helpful team at The Banyans on 1300 226 926 for a confidential discussion about their alcohol rehabilitation centre facilities or visit http://www.thebanyans.com.au for more information. Your health is our priority.